When you don't like the rules  
Some boards can impose what some homeowners believe are invasive, silly, or elitist rules. In 2008, some news outlets reported on a homeowner in an upscale gated community in Frisco, Texas, who was threatened with fines for parking his new Ford F-150 series truck in his driveway overnight. The board made exceptions for several luxury brands, but his mid-range truck was ruled "not classy enough."
Even if you disagree with the rules, keep paying your dues. HOAs have broad legal powers to collect fines and fees and regulate activities. If you don't respond to letters from the board, property manager, or a collection agency, the HOA can and will turn to small claims court or file a lien against your property.
You can handle some issues, if they don't affect the CC&Rs, with a phone call. For example, adding recycling to the garbage collection route is a budget, not a rules, issue. Call the board member who oversees trash collection to find out if there's leeway in the budget. Also, the board might find a way to add a service by cutting back on something else.
If you want to do something that's against the rules—like flying the American flag in your yard—start by making a written request for variance, using the appropriate HOA form in your CC&R documents. A variance gives you permission to be the exception to the rule. Submit your request to the board and property management company.
Help your cause by seeking a compromise: That you'd like to fly the American flag, but only on national holidays.

Don't expect a quick solution
Some HOA boards meet as little as twice a year. If the board decides the issue is worth pursuing, it may require a community vote. If it passes a majority, the board will adopt it. Board members also may consult the HOA attorney to see if there's a legal liability if they rule against you.
If you don't get a timely response, request a hearing and resubmit your request for variance with as much support for your cause as possible.
If the board rules against you without a community vote, you can appeal the ruling with a petition signed by a majority of other homeowners.
But if you fly your flag without permission, expect to get fined. Fines can range from a nominal $25 to a painful $100 or more depending on the issue. Your CC&Rs will indicate the fine schedule—per day, per incident, etc. Interest for nonpayment can accrue, and the HOA can sue you in small claims court.
If you feel the ruling or the fines are unjust, the last resort is to hire an attorney and sue the HOA, as a flag-flying couple did in 1999. They battled their HOA in court for nine years before the case was settled in their favor.

Become the rule-maker  
If you don't like the rules, the best way to change them is to become part of the process.
1. Know your CC&Rs, annual budget, and employee contracts. Do you see areas where expenses can be cut? Are service providers doing their jobs?
2. Volunteer for a committee or task. If the board needs to enforce parking rules, for instance, you can volunteer to gather license plate numbers of residents' vehicles. In addition, put your professional expertise to work: Assist the board with data entry, accounting, or website design.
3. Stand for election to the board. When a position becomes open, the board notifies the members, and you can put your name forward. New board members are elected at the annual meeting by member majority vote. Many boards are three to nine members large, with terms of one to two years.
Involvement drawbacks
As a board member, be prepared to spend two to four hours a month reviewing property management reports, monitoring budgets, or talking to other board members and residents. Most boards meet quarterly; small boards only meet twice a year, for a couple of hours.
Accept that you might become less popular if homeowners don't like your decisions. In the worst case, you could be sued, along with the rest of the association.
Involvement benefits
But their are rewards. You'll feel more in control of your community's fate. You may find that some rules you didn't support have merit after all. But most of all, you'll know you're doing all you can to protect your quality of life and your home's value.

This article was written by Blanche Evans